How to Keep a Relationship Strong and Happy: Relationship

 "How to Keep a Relationship Strong and Happy.''

6 Tips for a Happy, Lasting Relationship

Improve your relationship by using research-based tools for healthy romance.

Have you ever made a stupid mistake that ruined a great relationship? (I can't be alone, can I?)

After making my own mistakes in the past, I have read a lot about the science of how to have a happy and lasting relationship, be it with a romantic partner, family or friends. Below, I want to share 12 science-based tips to help you avoid disconnection and improve your relationship!

1. Be honest.

Anything you avoid or don't want to admit to the truth will probably hurt your relationship. In the long run, it is better to face the truth and address it right now than to destroy your relationship.

For that reason, be intentional and find out the truth about your relationship. Think about all aspects of it - your feelings and thoughts, the other person's feelings and thoughts, as well as their external context. If you find yourself moving away from a certain aspect of reality, this is the time to double your focus and reach the truth.

2. Avoid “failure in their minds”.

One of the biggest dangers of a close relationship is that the other person is feeling just like you in feelings and thoughts - in other words, "failure in their mind." Many times, our sensitive self does not want to admit that the person we have come close to is actually different from us - sometimes very different. I know I made this mistake and in the past, it cost me dearly. So how do we avoid it?

3. Use Tell Culture.

Say culture is a communication strategy where you are open and honest with people close to your life about your feelings, thoughts and what is going on with you. It makes you more vulnerable and authentic. Tell them information about yourself that you think they want to know.

For example, if you want to hug, tell the other person that you want to hug. However, in order for the culture to work, it is really important for you to expect the other person not to embrace you. Rather, you are only responsible for telling them your needs and desires so that they can do as they please, depending on their own needs and desires.

4. Remove communication barriers.

For communication to be open and honest in order to work, your communication barriers need to be removed. Determine your individual communication preferences and then compromise on something that works best for both of you.

5. Practice sensitive practice.

When you communicate with each other, just don’t listen to what the other person is saying, don’t even listen to the emotion under the words. Notice that the other person seems stressed, frustrated, sad, frustrated, confused, satisfied, happy, happy, etc.

Pay attention to the tone of voice, body language and what is not being said, as well as the content of the words.

One magic-bullet solution to so many relationship problems! Schedule regular meetings to discuss the status of your relationship and what improvements can be made.

For example, my wife and I have a relationship check-in every two weeks. We first talk about what we’ve appreciated most about each other over the past two weeks. Next, we will discuss what we can do to improve our relationship and how to do it. Finally, we ended up with gratitude to each other for the check-in relationship and got some delicious chocolates to reward ourselves. It has done wonderful things to improve our relationship!

Others. Trust others.

All of these strategies will help you build trust, which is the key to a happy and lasting relationship. Always keep a personal assessment behind the mind of your relationship level of trust. How much do you trust another person to behave in a way that matches that person's emotional model? How much do you trust that person to get your back?

If you want an intentional relationship, work to build trust and gather information about the other person's credibility. Show weakness and innocence, share privacy and be generous in your offer to compromise. If the other person makes you feel trustworthy, be more committed to the relationship. If not, re-evaluate your own commitment level, as the relationship will not be effective in the long run.

6. Respect Boundaries and Privacy.

Technological advances make it so easy for us to keep track of each other and keep in constant touch. But as well as allowing each other to keep confidential as well as not forcing the other person to do things they prefer not to do, it helps to increase the happiness of the relationship, because it builds mutual trust.